It's been just over two years since I last wrote here... so a considerable water has passed under the proverbial bridge, and as I await a dissertation chapter review, a few taps on this electro-static touch pad - finds me here.
A lot has transpired in the last two years: A couple of trips back home, family matters, attempt at a possible hitch, relocated friends,friends lost, change of address (two), and last but not the least - actual sighting of the light at the end of this academic tunnel. However, the fact that I can't get myself to is this passage of time. The catalyzing event that lead me here was an email I sent out to a good friend after a passage of more than 2.5 years!
We are taught from the get go about the value of this time and how it cannot be recovered and what not... However, what NO one attempts to divulge is - how to deal with this passage ? Is there a preset form of autonomous reaction we are supposed to undergo, when the sudden realization hits us ? I am going to try and put together a "Users Manual" for the same... and towards that end, while I put together the same, comments and input are invited from anyone who may want to contribute to the same.
To quote Seneca: "Veritum dies aperit" (Time discovers the truth).
I just feel, this time around - prudence dictates haste.
Cheers!
4 comments:
Kudos for retrieval of an old friendship! Sensitive on your part to delve deep into the psyche underlying the said gesture. Anyways, your query about dealing with the passage of time- therein lies the answer as well.
I think you have dealt with the passage of time by being a part of that passage albeit passively as far as the friend goes. Clearly the person in question was not in your 'priority' list which is why it took you such a long time in re-contacting(if i may use this word).
To my mind, there is never any reason strong enough to hold you back from keeping in touch with people you hold near and dear, rest follow nature's law of vestige.
Enjoy your renewed fr'ship...
Attempt at a possible hitch? What kind of attempt did you do? Are you sure what you did actually constitutes an attempt?
I would certainly like to believe that it did constitute an attempt. The quality/degree of my attempts might have left a bit to be desired - but isn't that dependent on perspective?
I don't think it depends on perspectives. When it comes to matters of heart, nothing is quantifiable but everything can be tested and tried. Could it be that you subconciously launched a self-defeating attempt out of ,may be,I don't know, "fear of commitment"?
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